They’re not even Current Events at this point. The most recent of which happened over a week ago now, I can’t exactly call them news. Instead we’ll go with events. Events that have all happened within the past 3 weeks, but are the results of the past five years.
If you follow my twitter feed you already know what I’m about to say. Throwing 140 characters together on my phone is much more convenient to shout something into the ether. A blog post takes a bit of time. Time that could be spent sleeping, or reading, or watching Futurama episodes that I’ve only seen three times already.
But these are significant events, and do deserve their own blog post. They are accomplishments that I never would have achieved without this blog, in both direct and indirect ways. They are accomplishments that (hopefully) have already changed the path my career and ultimately my life will follow moving forward. But enough chatter….
Event the First: Three weeks ago, after a month of emails and two separate interviews, I was asked to serve a two-year term on the Board of Directors for the Rhode Island Parent Information Network. (RIPIN.org). It’s a pretty big deal. My term will start in September. I can’t even begin to express how proud and honored I am to be a part of this wonderful organization as they continue to help all Rhode Islanders by supporting and training parents to be their own best advocates in health care and education.
Two days after hearing the news I was lucky enough to be able to attend the RIPIN annual staff meeting of 115 employees (70% of which are the parents of children with special needs, or are people with special needs). Humbled and awestruck by the level of excitement, dedication, and positivity in the room I gave myself permission to accept the legitimacy of my story, of our story, and realized that I could add my voice to this group. That along with the nervousness of trying something new, I belonged in that room with those people.
I realized that it was time to get to work.
Event the second: Only a few days after having my mind blown by the enormity of the opportunities that I now find myself given, it happened again. The very next Monday I gave a speech at a conference on fatherhood during and after a child’s NICU stay. I gave a version of a presentation that I have given before, adding some points on the aspects specific to fathers. It was well received and I’m happy with how it went even if I’ve spent the week and a half since remembering things that I should have written into the presentation. There was a significant number of questions from the audience and while I didn’t check my watch I’m fairly certain that I more than filled the hour I was allotted to speak on the day’s agenda.
But it was during the second half of the conference that I was asked to be a part of a panel discussing the resources available to fathers post-NICU. A panel that the conference organizers wanted me to discuss and focus on this space right here. My blog. PressureSupport.com. To be approached solely because of the writing I do here has made me incredibly proud, (Hrm, So proud, I guess, that I waited 10 days before posting about it here. I’ll be better.) and I think I had some valid points to bring to the discussion but it was the other men on the panel that humbled me and inspired me. Men from state organizations, and non-profits across Rhode Island. Men dedicated to advocating for fathers, their rights, their needs, and their emotional supports.
I truly felt like I had no business even being introduced to sit at the same table. These men all have dedicated their careers and in essence lives to advocate for others. For parents. For fathers and ultimately for their children. For anyone who needs a voice.
These men, that speech, and being asked to sit on such a prestigious board. Inside of a month all the little small decisions I’ve made in the past 4 and half years since starting this blog, like a timely email to the right person, or a blog post that someone I work with shared on facebook, and deciding that I did have something to contribute to the Women & Infants Hospital Wide Advisory Committee for Patient and Family Centered Care and throwing my hat into the ring for membership. All decisions that had something to do with this blog and all that have led me to this point in my life have all come to pass in these last three weeks.
Not only do I finally know what I want to do with my life, but I’m at a place in my ability, knowledge, and confidence that I just might have also found a way to get there.
Every day since that conference (save for the fourth of July holiday and the Saturday and Sunday after) I have had some form of contact, emails, phone calls with someone who was either there or heard about the speech I gave. I’ve been asked to do more speeches. Tomorrow I have a breakfast meeting with one of the men that I sat on the panel with. Next week on my day off I have another scheduled with a different organization.
It’s all happening now.
Sometime last year I spoke on the phone for a few hours with another blogger who I respect and admire, and who has worked in this advocacy realm since her daughter was born with special needs, about how to increase my role of advocating not only for my own family but for other families of children with special needs. To turn this passion into a career. To support my family by doing the thing I am most passionate about. To support my family by doing something that I would be (and already am) doing for free. Ultimately the main takeaway wasn’t any specific steps, or classes to take, but only to allow myself permission to accept that our story and my perspective have value. That Liam’s story can change the way a medical professional sees their role, or their own patient’s perspective. That the experiences that Karin, Liam and I have endured can in any way help a family out there going through something similar.
Karin and I have always said that there must be a reason that we were the parents picked to raise a child as special as Liam.
I think I may finally be starting to accept that.
Coming from someone who has never really had the confidence to take risks or stick my neck out there, that is a pretty big deal.
Now it’s time to get to work.